Why is it that in every society, there are stereotypes that exist for every age bracket that an individual grows into. For instance, in my case, everyone thinks the next best thing for me to do with my life is get married. For this reason i have avoided extended family gatherings like the plague - most especially gatherings that involve my mother's family and female cousins. There are just too many women in that group for anyone to survive their assault. Oh.. i avoid their calls too. All you get are questions. 'when will you give us date and asoebi to pick from?'. Phew! What planet are they from?
Dont get me wrong, i want to get married and have the expected 2.5 kids but i do not want to get married simply because everyone is urging me to tie the knot. What laws say i must live my life based on somebody's expectation?Alright, i must make sure my parents do not read this post otherwise, they might just flip.Some readers might not understand me fully. I'd explain.
I'm the only female child in my family.. the youngest too, I'm African and proud about it! Who does not know of the proverbial African love for family and many children?. But in my society, once you are a girl child, it is assumed that you will get married before the males...even when they aeons older than you. Hence, the endless prayers at wedding ceremonies. 'Ti e naa o ni pe de o' May your own wedding come soon. If all their prayers were to be answered, i would have been married two zillion times over. Na wa.
I was at a colleague's wedding on Saturday and it is absolutely unbelievable the number of goodluck and goodwill prayers that i have recieved since then. My older and veree married colleagues have been making eyes at me... whateva next!
Anyway, i'm here and standing strong. Like i always say, que sera sera.