THE MARRIAGE THINGY (2)


Now that i started on this topic, i find it absolutely difficult to stop. Hope you can stick with me for as long as my solo tirade against societal expectations wear thin. Oh, by the way, I'm absolutely sorry for the abrupt end to my last post. My boss was basically jumping down my back and when he says 'jump', i can only ask 'how high' so i had to publish the post like that. Well, like my people say, half bread is better than none. I promise this would be a better post...hopefully.
Well, it crossed my mind that for some reason or the other, what happens when we get pressures or expectations from others to do certain things, it remains in our subconscious longer than we know. And then, wham... the right time comes for you to do those things. I'd like to believe that my theory also applies to things that we'd like to think we brushed off our shoulders and ideas that we actually react to. This can be seen as the power of suggestion.
For instance, what all my nosey aunts and cousins who want me to get married have succeeded in doing to me is destroying the beauty of the chase. What do i mean by this? When a boy meets girl, she is expected to dream and imagine that he is her knight in shining armour, the one who can save her soul from peril bla bla bla. I guess you know what i mean. Unfortunately when a boy meets this girl, only certain questions cross my mind. Is he tall enough? Is he good looking enough? Do we share the same religious and political lineages? and the most important of all- is he rich enough? What this does on the long run is that all the mystery is gone.
Another reaction you get from the 'marriage craze' is this - every guy who talks to you is the potential groom. Each time you meet a guy who erroneously smiles at you or eyeballs you, you envision the both of you at the altar! The problem with this kind of thinking is that not every man and woman relationship is altar bound. Most aren't! It is for this reason that most ladies are percieved to be extremely clingy. They have found the relationship and it must work! Thats not so bad or is it?
Finally, it makes you break all your laid down rules. I will not date my best friend's ex or my boyfriend's friend or my brother's friend or a non-christian. You find out that at some point, you lose all rationale and date one or all four men at the same time. Afterall, you have to live life on the edge and have a taste of every pudding. You live life only once ain't it? This brings a question to my mind. When is it alright to date a friend's ex or somebody your friend found attractive at one point or the other. Is it ever safe? This would certainly make a very good topic for discussion. I would do this and get back to you.
Now that i have successfully railed at marriage or the lack of it, i can breathe easier and rest easy. There is a perfect time and place for every human being. The best thing is to wait till that time comes. Remember that His will is most important.

In His will is our peace - Dante

Later
Jay