THE OTHER WOMAN

A friend of mine is caught in the middle of the two most important ladies in his life. His mother and his wife. Or shall I say his wife and his mother? Me sef no know who to put first.

Anyway, there has been this long standing rift between the old lady and wifey, to top it up, they share the same birthday and bobo husband has to update his blackberry profile. Here is what he did:

'Happy Birthday to the most wonderful woman in my life, Mummy i love you.... and to my wifey, happy birthday darling'

I have been stylishly checking his update over and over to see if there is a change but mbanu nothing. I'm sure the dude has probably forgotten to update sef. Personally, I think his ass is in trouble for putting  his Mummy first on that dp but hey, you never know.

What happens in cases like this when the other woman isn't some sexy little side chic but the very woman who birthed the gorgeous man you adore so much?

So, tell me ladies, when does a man cross the line with  his 'mommy dearest' issues? Has he crossed the line here by putting his mommy first? 

And dear men, are women sometimes too finicky about this mother in law issue? After all, she is your mum and you cannot afford to treat her badly just because of another woman.

Lets know your thoughts, how will you handle this situation? If you were the wife, how would you feel?

PS. Oh did i remember to add that Mommy's picture has been the dp all day?

BE LIKE THE WILLOW TREE 18+

Le hubby thinks I'm an internet junkie... Sometimes, I think so too. So, I'm browsing and somehow opened an article titled '10 Best Sex Position for Women for Maximum Pleasure'. Hey I said I 'stumbled' on the page. It just magically appeared on my screen. ( that's my story and I'm sticking to it).

So, thinking I'm going to learn one or two new moves in the sack, I proceed to read and mid way, around number five or so....I stop, try to do the move ( hubby is away so I am free to be foolish), and think to myself ...who writes these things? who does these things? Am I missing a trick here? Am I the only woman in the world whose bones aren't made of rubber?

I shall proceed to share some positions. Please be warned that you have to be a willow to remain in some of these positions beyond four minutes without loss of blood circulation:

The Crossed Keys: In the Crossed Keys position, she can lie with her behind near  the edge of the bed, legs straight up and crossed. He can stand in front of her and use his hands to cross and uncross her legs. - this crossing and uncrossing is during the act? Seriously? 

The Hero: To be in this position, the woman must lie on her back pulling her knees up to her chest, feet extending up towards the ceiling. The man should kneel down thighs under her behind. - knees to the chest, as well as feet pointing up, then thighs under her behind? I just don't know...sounds like a bumpy ride.. Maybe my powers of comprehension fail me tonight. Although to be honest, I think I've been errr a hero more than a few times myself...

The Fan: The woman stands with her back to her partner in this position. She bends her knees and rests them on the edge of a chair or stool and crosses her arms on the back of the chair or on the stool to support her. This one is for those who like to take complete control or enjoy anal sex. - this one here sounds okay.. The crossing of the arms though.. How r we jigging and I'm crossing my arms? Is it me? It must be me. Women all over world are at it with neatly folded arms.

The Countertop:  It's when the woman is laying on her back on the counter or table while he enters standing. It's rough. There's pushing aside of papers, pepper shakers which add to the sense of urgency and inappropriateness. It's easy to maneuver and move the woman to slide along the counter. There is still contact. He goes deep and feels in control. It works all the way around. The keys are clothing, stuff in the way, and being in an open space. Still allows for connection while feeling dirty. It just works on so many levels. It's not about acrobats. It's about context. - Seriously? What countertop? What papers? What context? With a house full of people? 


The Willow Tree is known for its flexibility. It's often described as one of the most flexible trees in nature. No elements nor winds can break it. Therein lies the key to its longevity, it's flexibility.  How flexible are we to life's changes or challenges? How willing are we to try new experiences? Flexibility is a major health and success factor. Limited stress and  openness to new possibilities.

So, be it between the sheets, in the board room or the work hallways, practice flexibility and see where it leads. It might not be all that bad...Be flexible enough to try it. Give it a go!

Later
Jay.

Life is an Echo

It has been seven long years since I put up a post on this page! Wow! How time flies. I'm thankful, I'm here, alive, doing quite well. A wonderful husband and two beautiful children later, I would like to think I've matured a bit. Let's find out together..

A couple of weeks back, a friend complained to me that she seems to have lost all her friends. Even the faithful ones like me (nah, that hasn't changed, I still have no modesty) were no longer keeping in touch. So I asked if she had really put in any effort to remedy the situation. Has she reached out to them? Find out about their personal circumstances?

We usually tend to assume that friendship / familial relationships come easy but they don't. It requires work, energy and most importantly genuine commitment. One has to learn not to take those relationships for granted. Sometimes, you have to be a listening ear even though you really don't want to hear, carry a burden though your shoulders are already heavy with yours, be a source of faith or comfort though you have doubts. The most important thing is to be there.... Be there actively and genuinely.

You can be rest assured that in the amazing way this universe has been ordered, that day will come when you will also need these favors returned. Probably not in the same measure or form nor from the same people but the day will come.

This poem sums it up for me

Life is an echo
what you send out
comes back
what you sow
you reap
what you give
you get
what you see in others
exists in you
remember life is an echo
it will always come back to you
so give goodness

life is an echo
what you give out
will come back
so show care
and do whats right
treat others the way
you want to be treated
beacuse it will come back ot you
for life is an echo  - Matthew Linback

Later
Jay

P.S: I also need to work on so many of my relationships.. But a step at a time.